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Moshe Lapine is an individual who corresponded with the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson, regarding personal matters, specifically the search for a suitable marriage partner (shidduch).
In a letter dated 26 Kislev, 5712 (1951), the Rebbe addresses Moshe Lapine's concerns about not finding a suitable shidduch. The Rebbe emphasizes the importance of maintaining a positive and open-minded approach when considering marriage suggestions. He counsels that one should not expect absolute perfection in a prospective partner, as no individual possesses all virtues, and everyone has their own shortcomings. The Rebbe encourages self-reflection, noting that just as one tends to view oneself favorably, it is important to be flexible and understanding regarding others' perceived or real deficiencies.
The Rebbe further advises that it is impossible to predict exactly how two people will develop after marriage, as the experience itself brings about significant changes that cannot be foreseen. He encourages Moshe Lapine to trust in Hashem Yisbarach (G-d), who will surely arrange a suitable match both materially and spiritually. The Rebbe concludes with a heartfelt blessing for a timely and appropriate shidduch, and that Moshe should merit to build a home in Israel founded on Torah and mitzvot.