6090 - Strategic Influence: Knowing When to Speak and When to be Silent

To the Rabbi and Chassid: Moreinu David Yitzchak שיחי' Leselbaum, Kfar Chabad.

Shalom u'Veracha:

I am responding to your letter and the note enclosed within it. It gave me much satisfaction to read that, ultimately, you were able to fulfill my request to visit your relative, Mr. Zerubavel, and relay the words I shared with you.

It is particularly good that you did not enter into any debates, arguments, or lengthy "give-and-take" discussions with him. That was not the intention of your visit.

Based on this, it should be understood that in the future as well, you should not engage in arguments with him. You have fulfilled what I asked of you, and I, in turn, have fulfilled my own role in this matter. We have both carried out our respective missions (Shlichus).

Consequently, there is no need to send him the additional note you mentioned. Regarding your question as to whether you should send him a copy of the words from my previous letters to you: do not do this on your own initiative.

However, if Mr. Zerubavel himself seeks an opportunity to meet with you, begins a correspondence, or specifically asks for a copy of my words, then you should certainly provide them. Until such an initiation comes from his side, do not take any further action in this matter.

It is my fervent hope that the health of your daughter has already greatly improved. I look forward to hearing good news regarding her recovery.

With thanks and with blessings, (The Rebbe's Signature)

Summary

This letter provides a fascinating look into the Rebbe’s "spiritual diplomacy" regarding outreach to those who are staunchly opposed to religious observance:

1. Mission Over Argument: The Rebbe teaches that a Shliach (emissary) is not a debater. The goal was to deliver a specific message—which included a "miraculous" reference to a dream Zerubavel had—to break through his defenses. Once that seed was planted, the mission was complete.

2. The Ethics of Initiation: To avoid creating further friction, the Rebbe advises against "pushing" more information. By waiting for Zerubavel to ask for the letter, the Rebbe ensures that any further growth comes from Zerubavel's own desire, rather than feeling like a target of proselytization.

3. Spiritual Prophecy: The background of this exchange involved the Rebbe proving his spiritual connection to Zerubavel by referencing a private dream. This letter confirms that once the "proof" was delivered, the Chassid's job was to step back and let the spiritual process unfold naturally.