1735 —השפעת ההורים להדריך את הבת בתורה ובמצות

B"H, 24 Tammuz, 5712.

Brooklyn.

Shalom u'Vrachah!

I was pleased to receive your letter from Monday, the 21st of Tammuz, including the pan for yourself and your entire family. I was very gratified by your report that Hashem has arranged a proper match for your daughter—may it be His will that it be at a good and auspicious time, and may they build an everlasting edifice on the foundations of Torah and mitzvos.

Once again, I repeat what I told you orally: it is beyond any doubt that my revered father-in-law, the Rebbe—of blessed memory—was correct in his saying (in the name of his own father) that persistent advocacy never returns empty-handed. Even when it comes from people with no blood relation—and all the more so when it comes from parents to their children—the merit is especially great. Therefore, you and your wife have the sacred privilege to use all your influence on your daughter so that she herself decides to conduct her home according to Torah and mitzvos, especially in matters that depend on her personally.

I am aware of the argument made by parents in America—and particularly in the United States—who wonder if they will succeed in this and do not know how to begin such conversations. But surely you understand there is no validity whatsoever to these arguments compared with the importance of Torah and mitzvos—especially family purity, upon which every Jewish home rests. With proper effort and diligence in this matter, one can find ways—either personally or through others suited for this—to influence their daughter in this direction.

Relying on our Sages' teaching: "Fortunate is the generation whose elders heed its youth," my strong hope is that you will heed my words to influence your daughter as above; my strong hope as well is that you will see with your own eyes success in this matter. Especially when you explain to her about her match—which was mentioned several times at the resting place of my revered father-in-law—and I rely on your understanding. Particularly since this matter concerns you directly, may Hashem grant you the right words.

Blessings for proper health for you and all your family both spiritually and materially together.

P.S.: Enclosed is the list published for the Days of Redemption and Segulah—the 12th and 13th of Tammuz just passed. Surely you will share it with many others, as all year is an appropriate time to teach a lesson in serving Hashem—not being affected by concealments or obstacles—which itself transforms concealment into added light within one's personal four cubits.

Summary

The Rebbe teaches that parental efforts to guide children toward Torah values are always meaningful. Even when unsure how to begin or doubtful of success, persistence combined with heartfelt concern can inspire positive decisions rooted in faith and mitzvah observance.