6170 —סיוע בשידוך והפצת האור

B"H, 9th of Nissan, 5718.

Brooklyn.

Shalom u'Vrachah!

In response to your letter—which was delayed quite a long time before reaching me—in which you write about your second daughter, may she live, who is in the United States and has not yet become engaged. It is understood, especially according to the custom in the United States, that it is difficult to do much in this matter before the interested party herself seeks advice or at least discusses things, because it is contrary to local custom here to invite someone and ask about their situation, etc., especially regarding youth—even those born elsewhere but who have already been here for some time and know how things work here. Nevertheless, since everything is by Divine Providence and I received your letter on this matter, I will try to find ways so that one of my friends or acquaintances will speak with her and clarify the situation; perhaps some approach will be found in the direction you wrote about in your letter.

Certainly for your honor there is no need to elaborate that you should not feel any need to apologize for writing to me about this matter. Helping with shidduchim for a Jewish person—especially for a Jewish daughter—is something our sages greatly emphasized and praised for its importance. It is based on the principle of being great in Torah and "Ve'ahavta l'reiacha kamocha" (love your fellow as yourself).

May it be G‑d's will that the promise of our Torah, Toras Chaim—that one who honors Torah scholars will have sons-in-law who are Torah scholars—be fulfilled in you. And may it be His will that you regularly have a good lamp—in its inner meaning as explained in the holy Zohar: oil represents the secrets within secrets of Torah; both Chanukah and Shabbos candles are specifically meant to illuminate darkness or even outside, meaning to spread and explain even the secrets of Torah. As explained earlier in that sugya: from this comes sons and sons-in-law who are Torah scholars (see Shabbos 23b).

With honor and blessing for good news in all of the above and for a kosher and joyous Pesach.

Summary

The Rebbe encourages assisting others with shidduchim as an act rooted in Ahavas Yisrael and Torah values. He connects this help with spreading spiritual light—illuminating darkness through both action and teaching—and blesses for success and joy.