Avoiding Division in Planning the Yeshiva Dinner

Holy Letters of the Rebbe – Volume 15, Letter 5426
Baruch Hashem, the 4th of Iyar, 5717, Brooklyn. Shalom u’Vracha.

The Rebbe writes in response to a letter dated the 26th of Nissan. He begins by expressing appreciation for the good news regarding the formation of a committee to strengthen and benefit the affairs of the yeshivah, as well as the initial preparations for the annual dinner. In those years, the annual dinner was often the central fundraising event for many institutions.

The writer had asked the Rebbe what songs should be sung at the dinner. Certain songs were associated with differing ideologies or viewpoints, and including them could create disagreement or tension among participants.

The Rebbe responds that every effort should be made to avoid singing any songs that might lead to dispute or division. Even if a particular song itself is not controversial, if it could open the door to other songs or issues that generate conflict, it is better to avoid it as well.

The Rebbe explains the underlying principle: the purpose of the dinner is not to enter into ideological debates or to take sides in matters of controversy. The sole purpose of the event is to support and strengthen the institution, which serves and benefits the broader community.

Since the yeshivah exists for the benefit of all, all groups should feel welcome to participate in supporting it. Therefore, nothing should be introduced that might distance or alienate any participant. If a certain song or issue may cause discomfort or discourage support, it is wiser to leave it aside and focus on what unites everyone.

The Rebbe adds that, whenever possible, it is best to avoid placing such questions on the agenda altogether. Sometimes even the strongest explanation will not resolve disagreement, because personal preference can cloud judgment. In such cases, preventing the argument from arising is wiser than trying to win it afterward.

The Rebbe concludes with blessings for great success in his holy work and for good news.

The message of the letter is clear and timeless: when building institutions for Torah and education, the focus must remain on unity, shared purpose, and creating an environment in which all can participate and contribute.