5672 —עצה על תיקון פגיעה בעבר ובקשת מחילה

B"H, 23 Menachem Av, 5717.

Brooklyn, NY.

Shalom u'Vrachah!

In response to your letter from the 2nd of Menachem Av in which you write about the unfortunate events that happened to your daughters in recent years. It is necessary to clarify as soon as possible whether, apparently, in your shidduch with your wife there was some offense to the honor of a son or daughter of Israel. You should make every effort to investigate this as much as possible and also clarify if there is a need to request forgiveness or at least ask forgiveness before ten Jews. Also, see if any monetary compensation is appropriate.

May it be G‑d's will that you strive properly in this investigation and thereby all matters will be resolved, as it is said: 'VeSar Avoncha VeChatat'cha Techupar' ("Your iniquity will be removed and your sin will be atoned for"), as explained by our master the Alter Rebbe: 'Lechaper Lifnei Havayah Liheyot Nachat Ruach Lekono' ("To atone before Hashem so there will be satisfaction for His Creator").

It is advisable to check his tefillin, and that your wife should give a few coins to charity every weekday morning before candle lighting.

With blessing,

On behalf of the Lubavitcher Rebbe Shlita

Secretary

Summary

The Rebbe teaches that when misfortune strikes, one should examine past actions for possible offenses against others, seek forgiveness where needed—even publicly—and take practical steps like giving charity and checking tefillin to bring about spiritual rectification.