10937 —הכנה לנישואין ותזמון אירוסין לבן ישיבה

Marriage Readiness and Engagement Timing for a Yeshiva Student

[ה'תשל"ג]
The Rebbe writes that when there are many doubts, one should not agree to proceed. A yeshiva student at age twenty may not yet be ready for marriage, and making an engagement with the wedding set for a year or more later is not appropriate.
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[ה'תשל"ג]

שלום וברכה!

(1) כיון שיש כ"כ ספקות – מובן שאין

לומר "הן"

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(2) בן ישיבה בגיל עשרים ככתבה – צ"ע אם בכלל מו[כ]ן כבר לחתונה. ולהתקשר בתנאים וכיו"ב ע"מ שתהי' החתונה בעוד שנה ויותר – אינו ענין

כלל וכלל

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[5733]

Shalom u'Vrachah!

(1) Since there are so many doubts, it is understood that one should not say yes.

(2) A yeshiva student at the age of twenty, as written—there is doubt whether he is even ready for marriage at all. And to become engaged with the intention that the wedding will be in a year or more—is not appropriate at all.


Summary

The Rebbe writes that if there are many uncertainties, one should not proceed. For a yeshiva student of twenty, readiness for marriage is questionable, and long engagements are discouraged.

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