[ה'תשל"ג]
שלום וברכה!
(1)
לא
יותר מאשר קירוב ע"ע (כיון שאז תפרש זה במשך הזמן כמין הסכמה והכשר להנהגתה).
(2) שאף שכנראה הבת זקוקה לרופא
ורפואת האשה על בעלה
(אף שבנוגע לחיי אישות – צ"ל שאלת רב) – בנוגע לממון ולהשתדל שתלך לרופא – בכ"ז לא השואלת ובעלה שי' [ישתדלו לפעול על
חתנם
].
[5733]
Shalom u'Vrachah!
(1) No more than simple closeness should be shown (because over time this could be interpreted as a kind of agreement and approval of her conduct).
(2) Although it appears the daughter needs a doctor, and a woman's health is her husband's responsibility (though regarding marital relations—a rabbi should be consulted), regarding finances and trying to get her to go to a doctor—nevertheless, not the questioner or her husband should act upon their son-in-law.
Summary
The Rebbe advises maintaining only limited closeness to avoid giving unintended approval, and clarifies that while the daughter's health is primarily her husband's concern, the parents may encourage medical care but should not intervene directly with their son-in-law.