10098 —עצות על שמות לברכות, שידוכים, ורווחת הילדים

B"H, 7 Adar, 5731.

Brooklyn, NY.

Shalom u'Vrachah!

A. Sh. To inform the names of herself, her daughter and her husband shiyichye (along with their mothers' names), and I will mention them at the Tziyon so that Hashem will fulfill her pregnancy term properly and easily, and she will give birth to healthy and viable offspring at the right time and easily. It is proper to have her husband's tefillin and the mezuzos in their home checked to ensure they are all kosher according to halachah.

B. R. To inform the names of herself and her children shiyichyu (with their mother's name), and I will mention them at the Tziyon.

B. Ch. A. To inform the names of herself, her children, her brothers and spouse shiyichyu (with their mother's name), and I will mention them at the Tziyon.

B. Sh. To also provide her mother's name; I will mention at the Tziyon.

G. S. To also provide her mother's name; I will mention at the Tziyon.

G. To inform the names of all those for whom she requests a blessing (with their mothers' names), and I will mention at the Tziyon.

A. To inform the names (and her daughter) (with their mothers' names), and I will mention at the Tziyon. Increased trust in Hashem brings increased blessings from Hashem. A sum of 100 li was given from Keren Kayemet Moshe Chabad for success.

Z. Sh. Regarding herself: she should inquire as soon as possible about a shidduch; through this many of the issues she writes about will be resolved. Regarding her children shiyichyu: she should try to have them spend as much time as possible with children their own age; it is not advisable to mention their father unless asked about him since this increases their life stress etc. Regarding surgery – only if there is unanimous agreement between two expert doctors. Religious education in a school imbued with faith and mitzvah observance – this also strengthens mood and increases children's self-confidence etc.

The names of all those she writes about (with their mothers' names) – I will mention at the Tziyon.

Ch. M. One of our prayers is "Do not make us dependent on gifts from flesh." Hashem has certainly given her (and her friends in similar situations) the strength and energy to overcome their situation, including leaving loneliness (as she expressed in her letter), not through gifts from flesh but by their own strength. One way is by encouraging and helping (spiritually or materially) those who need it (of whom there are many in every city and circle, though some are embarrassed to speak about it etc.—and for these especially compassion is greater).

T. Sh. To inform the names of all those she writes about (with their mothers' names), and I will mention at the Tziyon; strengthening trust in Hashem increases His blessings where needed.

Y.Y. To also provide her mother's name; I will mention at the Tziyon.

Contemplating Eretz HaKodesh surrounded by enemies yet existing and being established must bring recognition that "He who guards Israel neither slumbers nor sleeps," giving strength to Tzahal etc., and although some of its best have fallen in battle—may Hashem avenge their blood—fear of Tzahal has fallen upon our enemies etc.—this also brings trust in Hashem even in private life for every Jewish man or woman.

One segulah for strengthening trust is having checked mezuzos on every doorway.

K.T.R.: To inform the names (with mothers' names); I will mention at the Tziyon.

A pair of tefillin was provided for her son shiyichye's bar mitzvah.

L.B.: She should inquire as soon as possible about a shidduch; through this many issues she writes about will be resolved.

The relatives shiyichyu in Russia should request exit permits from there repeatedly until they succeed; they should register to ascend to Eretz HaKodesh.

The names of all those she writes about (with mothers' names); I will mention at the Tziyon.

L.A.: Regarding her children shiyichyu: she should try to have them spend as much time as possible with children their own age; it is not advisable to mention their father unless asked since this increases life stress etc.; may Hashem grant success and satisfaction from them.

To also provide her mother's name and children's names shiyichyu; I will mention at the Tziyon.

M.Ts.: To also provide her mother's name and children's names shiyichyu; I will mention at the Tziyon.

A woman's giving tzedakah before lighting candles on Friday night or Yom Tov eve (without vow) brings peace into home and surroundings.

A.M.: Regarding: 1) Her sister tichye – if he is G‑d-fearing with good character traits she should inquire into this match; 2) Her father-in-law shiyichye – according to what was written it is worthwhile to try gently if possible that he not visit them; I will mention at the Tziyon regarding what was written.

M.M.: I will mention at the Tziyon regarding what was written regarding her son shiyichye serving in Tzahal—certainly he fulfills tefillin meticulously as required—and especially since it says "And all peoples of earth shall see that Hashem's Name is called upon you, and they shall fear you," [Devarim 28:10]—and now surely he strives that all his friends do likewise—which benefits both individual, community, and nation—and it says "And your camp shall be holy" [Devarim 23:15]—then "Hashem your G‑d walks among your camp...to save you...and give your enemies before you." Increased trust in Hashem overall adds blessing from Him.

Summary

The Rebbe teaches that submitting Hebrew names for blessings helps draw down spiritual merit; practical steps like checking mezuzos/tefillin enhance protection; faith leads to more blessings; seeking appropriate matches resolves issues; supporting others spiritually/materially uplifts everyone involved.