8262 —הצעת נישואין, ערכים משותפים, וכוח הרצון והתענוג

B"H, 16 Kislev, 5722.

Brooklyn.

Shalom u'Vrachah!

In response to your letter from the 13th of Kislev, in which you write about an honorable proposal with the distinguished Avrech... You met and spoke together also regarding your worldview, and you conclude that the person in question expects your participation in his life and work plans, etc., and sees in you more than you know is within yourself.

The proposal is appropriate, especially since there will be mutual desire between you to establish your home on the foundations of Torah and mitzvah as they are illuminated by the teachings of Chassidus.

At the end of your letter—you mention that it is known in the teachings of the soul that willpower rules over all human faculties, especially when will is united with a feeling of delight and not just a decision alone... Rather, this decision is based on true delight; indeed, this very delight is from the innermost part of the soul of a Jewish man and woman.

It is surprising that you do not write about activities regarding Bnos Chabad matters; surely you will fulfill this at the next opportunity.

With blessing for good news.

Summary

The Rebbe teaches that building a home on Torah values requires both mutual desire and inner delight. True willpower is most effective when it comes from deep joy within the soul. Involvement in communal activities like Bnos Chabad is also encouraged.